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Womanly Wednesday: A Guest Post on Abuse and Rescue

June 3, 2015 By Lauren

As part of our Womanly Wednesday series, I’ll be sharing guests posts by different women who are bravely putting their hearts and stories out there for you to read.  And friends, this girl is the bravest.  I met Annie my freshman year in college, and her story is one of the clearest examples of God’s relentless pursuit of our broken, hurting hearts.  She is radiant, with a joy and heart for people and adventures that absolutely shines and lights up whatever room she walks in.  I bawled reading this post about how she found healing and hope in the midst of abuse and pain, and it is an honor to have her sharing her heart on the blog today.  

Womanly Wednesday

Mine is a story of abuse and utter despair.  It is a story of hopelessness and pursuit of worldly success that has no ultimate value; a chasing after the wind.  It is a story of redemption, of God’s saving grace, of the Lord’s unfailing pursuit of a girl who bolted the other way – and his ability to capture and comfort even the most broken-hearted.

Maybe it’s a story you can relate to – perhaps not with the nitty gritty details, but with the heart of the matter.  The insecurities.  The shame.  The confidence in no one and nothing but myself.  The futile attempts to pick myself up by my bootstraps, without realizing that I had no firm foundation to place those boots on.  The slow realization and denial of the simple fact that if your efforts are all that you rely on, you won’t stand for long when the terrain beneath those boots morphs to shifting, sinking sand.

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Filed Under: Relationships, Womanly Wednesday Tagged With: abuse, Faith, Heart Stuff, Jesus, Rescue, Womanly Wednesday

How I’m Finding Freedom From Shame (A Three-Step Process)

May 18, 2015 By Lauren

“Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy—the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.”  

Brené Brown –The Gifts of Imperfection

Finding Freedom From Shame - Sobremesa Stories

The first time I remember feeling shame, that gnawing feeling in the pit of my stomach that something’s wrong with me, was in middle school.   I struggled in my relationships with girl friends, and remember one particular conversation with a girl friend who told me she didn’t want me around when the boy she liked was there because I was “too much,” and when I was my full self I was “obnoxious.”  I know that those words came out of a place of her own insecurity and fears, but they impacted me deeply.

I started to believe that who I am is obnoxious, that I needed to tone down my personality, my happiness, my intelligence, and myself in general to be liked and even loved by others.  I desperately sought attention from boys, believing that giving them my body and my heart was the only way to overcome my “obnoxious” personality and be “loved” the way I was longing for.  When I compromised my boundaries and values to make them happy, I felt an even deeper sense of disappointment and shame.

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Filed Under: Marriage, Relationships Tagged With: Counseling, Faith, Freedom, Heart Stuff, Jesus, Marriage, Shame






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